Most people have a Wish List. Some may call it a Bucket List, but they are not necessarily the same.
A Bucket List usually refers to things we want to do or places we want to see before we head down the highway or up the staircase. A Wish List typically itemizes stuff we want to accumulate while we are still kicking. And sometimes, the two lists briefly merge when the Bucket and the Wish happen to cross paths. This event occurs when the person compiling the two is unclear on the concept of Wish and Bucket.
If you are an enthusiastic shopper with sufficient funds, it is possible you support the “See something, Buy it” mindset. However, some shoppers enjoy or prefer looking without buying. They may choose to window shop because they lack funds. Or, they desire the pure delight of spending time alone without someone demanding they hurry up.
My mother was the queen of looking but not buying. If you doubt me, please consider that mother spent eight hours in a sizable craft store window shopping. It must have been relaxing because she came home smiling. It was during the times she shopped with the eyes rather than the wallet she compiled various wish lists. Such lists may include a few items for her, but mostly gifts for family and friends.
On the other hand, grocery shopping with our father, the king of impatience, was a weekly ordeal. You could say those times were her purgatory on earth.
No, he did not walk around the store dropping items in the shopping cart like Hubby tends to do. Father sat in the car, waiting. As you might have guessed, the longer he had to wait, the more agitated he became. Yes, he skipped the patience line where that particular genetic trait was handed out.
When it came to shopping, in the store or online, mother’s two daughters did not follow in her look-but-not-buy footsteps.
One daughter loves to shop, but she likes to buy, not just look. Her motto: I like it. It is a bargain at that price. I’m buying a dozen, whether I need it or not. Is that how hoarders approach their excessive accumulation lifestyle?
This writer abhors shopping, including grocery shopping. If we did not need fuel to survive, groceries would be the first thing crossed off my Must Do list. My approach is I need something. I walk in; buy the necessary item and leave. No longing looks and lingering for this gal.
In fact, often something catches my eye, but I talk myself out of buying it. Of course, there have been times I regretted that decision. Oh well.
Perhaps the less one has, the more a person wants. This attitude is understandable among folks not born with silver spoons at both ends. If that is the case, what do those who have everything wish to possess? From pure observation, they tend to accumulate for tax write-off purposes or just because they can.
It is a good thing we are not wealthy because clutter is annoying. As it is, we have more than we need or want. In fact, this writer’s focus is finding happy homes for as many of her possessions as possible. That may sound odd to you. But when you consider that belongings need care, at least dusting, and they take up space, it makes perfect sense.
The problem is it takes time and effort to match your belonging with happy homes. If you ever tried to adopt out puppies, you will understand.
For example, one of our over-achieving mama dogs had 13 puppies in one litter. What we discovered when it comes to puppies, free is not an incentive for some folks. However, when we charged one dollar per pup, people snapped them up.
Life is a constant evolution. What we wished for and obtained may become too much. Nowadays, our wish is to find people who need what we no longer use without enduring the brain damage of a garage sale.
Besides, who wants to buy garages?